When dealing with a difficult situation, many of us immediately default to comparing our circumstances to those of another. For instance, if one sprains their ankle and has to go to the hospital, they may see the other people in the ER with gunshot wounds and other serious ailments and feel slightly better about their own situation..
This is a useful technique. It provides us with perspective and sometimes even some temporary relief of our more negative feelings. But by always attempting to downplay yours (or someone else’s) problems, you are essentially pretending as if you don’t really have anything with which you are struggling.
For instance, our ankle sprain fellow will still have months of frustration and rehab ahead of him, and that is no small issue. Just because there are billions of people out there with worse problems, this does not mean that his problem is not worthy of empathy and compassion from others.
Yes, people living in oppressive governments are inarguably in a worse situation than those dealing with anxiety or obesity in a wealthier nation. Yes, Anne Frank was in a worse situation than anyone reading this post will ever be in. Yes, dead people probably have it worse than the living.
But none of this really matters in the end. If you have a problem, you have a problem. Accept that reality so that you can deal with it in a way that works for you. And don’t let anyone else, including yourself, minimize your pain.